Solution Sunday: You’re Grounded Chore Chart

In the words of my Grammy, “I don’t want to sound like I’m airing my dirty laundry,” but we’ve been having some behavior issues around here and problems not minding the first time, etc., etc., etc….

And a while back I saw a few Pinterest posts that had some ideas for grounding, including a “Congratulations, You’re Grounded” chore chart.  The basic idea is as follows:

  1. Kid does something wrong
  2. Kid gets notice from parent with assigned “point value” for wrong doing(s) that they have to “earn” back by doing an assortment of things to get ungrounded
  3. Kid is grounded from XYZ activities until they’ve earned all of the “points” back

There were a few of these out there already and none of them were exactly what I was looking for and they were all PDFs so they weren’t very easy to edit.  The one I liked the best was this one and I wish I could find who actually created it but I haven’t yet.  So, if you’re out there, thank you for the great inspiration.

But, like I said, I wanted it to work for us, so I created my own on Excel and then converted it to an editable PDF so I can use it quickly.  I’m sharing this with you because so far it’s been very helpful for us.  Download the Excel Version or the Editable PDF Version of the You’re Grounded Chore Chart.

Before this, grounding didn’t do that much to correct or prevent behaviors in our house.  Now the kids have to actually do something to get ungrounded.  You’ll notice that they get an 2 extra points added if they complain.  And, yes, Anna has already had some extra points added (and done over 100 points of chores so far) but she’s learning quickly.  And, Will…. he’s staying out of trouble for the most part!  Obviously, we’re only doing this with the bigs.

The littles…. oh my…. someone should give me some good ideas for getting them to behave too!!!

Hopefully this can help you out if you struggle with discipline being ineffective like we were for a while.  I’ll let you know if it continues to be a success.

And, who knows???  Maybe my house will stay cleaner this way too….


Mommy Review Monday: Faster Than Normal- how to use your ADHD super powers

I’ve never been diagnosed as ADHD, however, I’m pretty sure I’ve got it.  For example, this is the third time I’ve started and stopped writing this blog and I’m only two sentences in.

Or another example:  I’m having a serious conversation about school and discipline with a friend about grounding from TV. I go from that to Netflix to HBO to When is the Next Game of Thrones going to be on to What will John Snow and Calecee’s baby look like (I’m not stopping to look up how to spell her name right or I’ll be on Google for 2 hours reading about who knows what).

Wait, Google….

Wasn’t I supposed to Google something earlier today when Garen and I were talking?  I wonder what Garen is doing now?  Oh yeah, Kate was crying when we talked.  I bet he had a crazy night with the four kiddos with me in Houston.  Wait, the new babysitter started tonight……. Hold up!  How did I get here?  Wasn’t I supposed to be giving examples???

So you get the general idea.  That can happen to me in the middle of a dead serious conversation- like at a doctor’s office or while talking to the school principle.  Seriously, every minute of my life is like this.  But it’s not just that.

I struggle to be on time.  I procrastinate on important things that are overwhelming to me. But on certain tasks that get my attention, I can get things done with super-focus.  There’s a reason my blog is called Chicken Minus Head- because I’m often running around like that, from one thing to another!

I’m NOT saying this to try to get sympathy or to make excuses.  I deal with it and work hard every day to overcome through crazy-weird organization techniques. I’m also a self-proclaimed self improvement junkie.  I listen to a TON of audiobooks and podcasts since I have so much windshield time every week.  One I read a while back is really worth sharing on Mommy Review Monday.  It’s called Faster Than Normal by Peter Shankman.

Faster than Normal

It’s all about how ADHD can actually become your personal super power if you learn how to harness it and use it to your advantage.  It also is very helpful for anyone who has someone that has ADHD in their life and often times doesn’t know how to handle them.

Garen and I both listened to it.  There are times that the author went on about himself a little much and that bothered Garen more than me.  I think he did it to make a point that he didn’t achieve so much despite having ADHD but more to demonstrate that he achieved a lot because he had ADHD.  Look beyond that to get the useful tips.  Plus, the author is pretty hilarious so it was a fun listen. I’m going to start listening to his podcast to see if there are more tips that I can use.

This book is worth the read (or listen) if you’re a parent or teacher of an ADHD so you can learn ways to encourage and coach (and stay sane) or if you’re just a person that likes to get a lot done (even if you don’t have ADHD).

FREE ADHD TIP:  I finally finished this blog by setting my alarm for 10 minute time intervals and didn’t let myself do anything else until I finished it.  Doing that allowed me to get it done MUCH faster.  A lot of folks term this “time blocking.”  During the work week I use it a lot to get things done that I don’t look forward to and sometimes for chores I hate too.  It really works well for me.  I can’t remember if this is in the book or not but this gives you an idea of the kinds of ideas you can get out of it.

Photo Friday: Mr. Chairman, My Dad

My dad doesn’t often read this. And it’s a good thing because he’s a very humble man and may not approve of me bragging on him so much. However, I’m going to brag about him anyway.

Last night he was “inaugurated” as the Chairman (equivalent of President) of the Mason Contractors of America (MCAA). He’s been on the board now for 6 years and will now serve as Chairman for two additional years.

I’m so proud of him and my mom, who supports him every step of the way. They made up the “p” and the “s” of P and S Masonry, a masonry contractor in Central Texas established in 1987. They’ve both been advocates for the masonry and construction industry for the 30+ years they’ve been in business. I’ve been fortunate enough to have worked with them both in the masonry business and now on the equipment company, Spec Rents, which they established to provide increased safety and productivity to contractors across Texas.

I couldn’t have asked for better mentors and I’m so excited that he now has the opportunity to help continue to promote masonry across the country.

Congratulations to my Dad, Paul Odom, Chairman of MCAA, and to my mom, Susie, the First Lady of Masonry.

With that said Photo Friday consists of photos from the MCAA World of Masonry in Las Vegas. They’re all iPhone photos and none taken by Garen so they many not the best but they captured the moments!

It doesn’t matter how many times I attend the World of Concrete/World of Masonry… I think I’ll always be in awe at the sheer awesomeness of the cool construction products and equipment there is available.  Yes, I’m guilty of being a masonry/construction geek!Pre-banquet photo.  Em, Brian, and I flew out yesterday just to attend the closing banquet and hear Dad make his first speech as Chairman.  Garen was already out there since Oldcastle is a big player in the industry too. It was a great surprise for Dad because he didn’t know we were coming!Here he is: Mr. Chairman. It’s official since it was in the banquet booklet!I’m so proud of this guy!

Here he is with Mike Sutter, the outgoing Chairman of MCAA.  Dad’s had such a great time being his “wingman” over the years!

You can’t forget the First Ladies, Mom (Susie) and Colleen.  Behind every great man is a great woman.  They’ve had such a great two years traveling together.

Before boarding this morning we enjoyed a quick breakfast together as a family, minus Garen who flew American.

Did I mention that the banquet last night was at Fogo de Chao??? I’m pretty sure I ate about 3 lbs of delicious meat and had about 10 of those addicting cheese rolls soooooo I may not lose any weight this week. Totally worth it! And I was glad that I wore my stretch tent dress for the occasion.

It was a fast, furious, and fun trip and I’m so glad I got to go. We’ve got a big weekend with Anna’s dress rehearsal for the Talent Show tonight and the Pinewood Derby tomorrow. Stay tuned next week since I’m sure Garen will get some great photos.

Sweet Sunday: Anna’s Got Cookies

Anna has her cookies and has been selling them all weekend.

I’m a little partial but I think she’s the cutest Daisy ever. I mean, really how could you say no to this face?!?

We’ve really had such a fun time and got to enjoy a girls night together on Friday night since the boys and littles went to Hamilton to work on Will’s Pinewood Derby car.

Here’s her sales pitch:

This is her first year to sell cookies and I’m impressed that they have online sales available. If you’d like to buy from Anna, you can click here to have cookies shipped directly to you. How great is that?!?So now I’ve got Girl Scouts cookies in my house. Soooo tempting. Thank goodness I saved a few of my WW weekly points so I could eat quite a few this weekend. Totally worth it!

What’s Your Favorite Flavor?

Tomorrow morning, I’ll officially be a “cookie mom.”  You know, the crazy ladies dragging their little girls around selling those addicting little round morsels of joy???  For those of you don’t know what I’m talking about, I’m speaking of the ever-popular Girl Scout Cookies.

That’s right, folks.  Cookie Season officially kicks off tomorrow.

And, glutten-for-punishment that I am, I will be braving one of the few freezing days here in Texas to go stand in line at the zoo to pick up these boxes of tastiness.

With that said, it will all be worth it when I have 2 cases of Thin Mints in the back of my Expedition. Yummy! Yes, I’ve already calculated the Weight Watchers points.

What’s your favorite flavor???

Sweet Saturday: In the Kitchen

Today was a great day with the girls. They love to “pay kitten” (aka Play Kitchen). They’re very creative and I only had to retrieve one chewed up plastic French fry from Kate’s mouth. I call that a success.

People often ask if they get along well. And I always answer with “Eh.” Their personalities are very much their own, as are their looks but on occasion we will catch a few super sweet moments between the two sisters when they think no one is watching.

And it warms my heart!

As you can see, we moved their rooms around so that they now have Anna’s kitchen and table that she’s “too big for” now. If it didn’t make these two so happy that might make me a bit sad. Such is life!

Downstairs in the real kitchen, I’ve almost made it a whole week back on Weight Watchers. My goal is to get healthy and fit back into my old clothes, at least the few pre-twin pieces left after last year’s KonMari-phase cleared out my closet of anything that “I didn’t love.”

This year I’m not doing resolutions since last year failed so miserably. I think the Balanced app is a great idea but took too much time. I quit about a month in.

In 2018, I’m just trying to get back on track with goal setting and one of my goals is to get healthy. Weight Watchers has been good to me before. I lost 40 lbs in college.

And now I get to lose it all over again. What a great opportunity (typed in very sarcastic tone)! The good things is, Weight Watchers seems to have done some good updates and the app is super user friendly.

I’ll probably be finding all kinds of tricks to eat as much as I can for as little points as I can so stay tuned!

P.S. If anyone has any tips on replacing tasty coffee creamers with a low point alternative, PLEASE let me know!

(Not so) Tall Tale Tuesday: What Makes a Great Mom

Today’s prompt for (Not so) Tall Tale Tuesday is:

Write about the woman who has had the greatest impact on your life.

This didn’t take more than a few seconds for me to know exactly who I’d write about- my Mom.

We’d both freely admit that we don’t always agree about everything- far from it. But I have a long list of the great reasons she’s had the greatest impact on my life and what I think makes her a great mom:

  • She’s taught me to love unconditionally. I was a hard teenager to deal with. If I could take it back I would. But I can’t. What I can do is learn from how she continued to love me despite it all. I have a feeling I might need it- what are the chances that none of my four kids are not going to give me some heartache?!?
  • She loves my dad and he’s her best friend. I have married my best friend I aim to keep him happy and show him how much I love him every day.
  • She’s the money-lady. My mom has diligently kept the financial side of my parents’ companies going for 30+ years. She’s taught me how to save money and how to spend wisely. Many think I was brought up in a house where I got whatever I wanted. Ha. So far from the truth. My mom was pretty close to the budget-Nazi growing up. And while I was sometimes upset that I didn’t get to always have Tommy Hilfiger or Guess brand clothing (am I dating myself???), I sure am glad now that I got to experience that.
  • She gives freely. Part of her above mentioned budgeting always went to either the church or to fundraisers, etc. I don’t remember her ever turning anyone down unless she had already bought more Girl Scouts cookies than our family could eat.
  • She taught me to love to read. Not just because she read to me or made me read. She also was always reading and was always willing to help find me a book that I found interesting. This is something I worry about at our house because my books are now on my phone and iPad so it looks like to the kids that I’m “playing” while I’m really reading my book on my Kindle app.
  • She loves family get-togethers and has hosted them almost every holiday for a long time, especially as my grandparents got older. Getting together with aunts, uncles, and cousins has always been a big part of our life.
  • She’s taught me to party plan and to cook for others. This is similar to the above point but still a little different.  It drives Garen (only a little) crazy but I love planning parties.  I’m pretty sure the cooking doesn’t drive him crazy (unless he ends up cleaning it).  I’m not as good as my Grammy or my Mom but I think, like them, I’m getting better with age.

I could probably go on and on but I’ll stop. She’s a pretty great Mom and an even better Mammy! Happy (not so) Tall Tale Tuesday!  And thank you, Mom, for being a great Mom and friend.