Solution Sunday: You’re Grounded Chore Chart

In the words of my Grammy, “I don’t want to sound like I’m airing my dirty laundry,” but we’ve been having some behavior issues around here and problems not minding the first time, etc., etc., etc….

And a while back I saw a few Pinterest posts that had some ideas for grounding, including a “Congratulations, You’re Grounded” chore chart.  The basic idea is as follows:

  1. Kid does something wrong
  2. Kid gets notice from parent with assigned “point value” for wrong doing(s) that they have to “earn” back by doing an assortment of things to get ungrounded
  3. Kid is grounded from XYZ activities until they’ve earned all of the “points” back

There were a few of these out there already and none of them were exactly what I was looking for and they were all PDFs so they weren’t very easy to edit.  The one I liked the best was this one and I wish I could find who actually created it but I haven’t yet.  So, if you’re out there, thank you for the great inspiration.

But, like I said, I wanted it to work for us, so I created my own on Excel and then converted it to an editable PDF so I can use it quickly.  I’m sharing this with you because so far it’s been very helpful for us.  Download the Excel Version or the Editable PDF Version of the You’re Grounded Chore Chart.

Before this, grounding didn’t do that much to correct or prevent behaviors in our house.  Now the kids have to actually do something to get ungrounded.  You’ll notice that they get an 2 extra points added if they complain.  And, yes, Anna has already had some extra points added (and done over 100 points of chores so far) but she’s learning quickly.  And, Will…. he’s staying out of trouble for the most part!  Obviously, we’re only doing this with the bigs.

The littles…. oh my…. someone should give me some good ideas for getting them to behave too!!!

Hopefully this can help you out if you struggle with discipline being ineffective like we were for a while.  I’ll let you know if it continues to be a success.

And, who knows???  Maybe my house will stay cleaner this way too….

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Mommy Review Monday: Faster Than Normal- how to use your ADHD super powers

I’ve never been diagnosed as ADHD, however, I’m pretty sure I’ve got it.  For example, this is the third time I’ve started and stopped writing this blog and I’m only two sentences in.

Or another example:  I’m having a serious conversation about school and discipline with a friend about grounding from TV. I go from that to Netflix to HBO to When is the Next Game of Thrones going to be on to What will John Snow and Calecee’s baby look like (I’m not stopping to look up how to spell her name right or I’ll be on Google for 2 hours reading about who knows what).

Wait, Google….

Wasn’t I supposed to Google something earlier today when Garen and I were talking?  I wonder what Garen is doing now?  Oh yeah, Kate was crying when we talked.  I bet he had a crazy night with the four kiddos with me in Houston.  Wait, the new babysitter started tonight……. Hold up!  How did I get here?  Wasn’t I supposed to be giving examples???

So you get the general idea.  That can happen to me in the middle of a dead serious conversation- like at a doctor’s office or while talking to the school principle.  Seriously, every minute of my life is like this.  But it’s not just that.

I struggle to be on time.  I procrastinate on important things that are overwhelming to me. But on certain tasks that get my attention, I can get things done with super-focus.  There’s a reason my blog is called Chicken Minus Head- because I’m often running around like that, from one thing to another!

I’m NOT saying this to try to get sympathy or to make excuses.  I deal with it and work hard every day to overcome through crazy-weird organization techniques. I’m also a self-proclaimed self improvement junkie.  I listen to a TON of audiobooks and podcasts since I have so much windshield time every week.  One I read a while back is really worth sharing on Mommy Review Monday.  It’s called Faster Than Normal by Peter Shankman.

Faster than Normal

It’s all about how ADHD can actually become your personal super power if you learn how to harness it and use it to your advantage.  It also is very helpful for anyone who has someone that has ADHD in their life and often times doesn’t know how to handle them.

Garen and I both listened to it.  There are times that the author went on about himself a little much and that bothered Garen more than me.  I think he did it to make a point that he didn’t achieve so much despite having ADHD but more to demonstrate that he achieved a lot because he had ADHD.  Look beyond that to get the useful tips.  Plus, the author is pretty hilarious so it was a fun listen. I’m going to start listening to his podcast to see if there are more tips that I can use.

This book is worth the read (or listen) if you’re a parent or teacher of an ADHD so you can learn ways to encourage and coach (and stay sane) or if you’re just a person that likes to get a lot done (even if you don’t have ADHD).

FREE ADHD TIP:  I finally finished this blog by setting my alarm for 10 minute time intervals and didn’t let myself do anything else until I finished it.  Doing that allowed me to get it done MUCH faster.  A lot of folks term this “time blocking.”  During the work week I use it a lot to get things done that I don’t look forward to and sometimes for chores I hate too.  It really works well for me.  I can’t remember if this is in the book or not but this gives you an idea of the kinds of ideas you can get out of it.

Adventures with Four: So Much for Cheap Entertainment 

Remember by post from yesterday? Well, to refresh your memory, the kids all happily played in and with laundry baskets and blankets yesterday morning, keeping them occupied for a solid 30 minutes. And I had the gall to brag about it. 

A few hours later, as I was getting lunch ready, I overhead Anna ask Will if he wanted to see her skate. This was followed by the infamous phrase, “Watch this!”

Before I could run upstairs Anna had tumbled down the stairs in one of the laundry baskets(a.k.a. her attempt at skating).  She cried and got some loving from me, along with a quick reminder that this is why I’ve been so adamant about not playing on the stairs. 

We iced it and gave her some Tylenol but when it was still hurting in the evening, I decided she should get checked out. 

Did I mention Garen was quarantined to our room with a stomach bug? Poor guy! So when I made the decision to go to the pediatric after hours clinic, all four kiddos got loaded up. My mom caught wind of it and asked if I was alone and needed help.  I sent her this:


“Hardly alone. I’ve got all four kids.” They were super well behaved, considering the wait time we had right at bedtime. You can see Mr. I’m-too-cool-for-photos head poking out from behind the table. 

Her wrist did end up being a slight buckle fracture. I was glad I decided to take her in. You can’t really even tell unless you know what you’re looking for in the X-ray. 


Next step, a follow-up appointment with the Ortho. So much for “cheap entertainment.” I feel fortunate. Her fall down the stairs could have been much worse. 

Moral of the story: don’t be too quick to brag. 

Oh, and I now have the stomach bug- despite the bottle of Lysol I went through yesterday. Fun times around here. It’s almost funny how karma can bite you in the rear. Fingers crossed the kids don’t get it.